quiet in yourself. Remember I know what it is. I’ve been the same, in the same state that you are in. And probably I’ve behaved more foolishly and perniciously than ever you will. So come to me if anything really bothers you. And don’t feel sly and secret. I do know just what you’ve got and what you haven’t. I’ve been as bad and perhaps worse than you. And the only thing I want of you is to be manly. Try and be manly, and quiet in yourself.”

That is about as much as a father can say to a boy, at puberty. You have to be very careful what you do: especially if you are a parent. To translate sex into mental ideas is vile, to make a scientific fact of it is death.

As a matter of fact there should be some sort of initiation into true adult